Don't drink poison,  get drunk, get into drugs, or commit suicide in the name of love or heartbreak. No partner or relationship is worth suicide. No boyfriend or girlfriend is worth your life or happiness.
You're first a human before another's partner. Even the Bible says love your neighbor as yourself. It didn't suggest you should love anybody more than yourself.
If a partner tells you "IT'S OVER" or he/she abandons you for another person; pick your pieces and move on! Don't die there. Stop the foolish fight for love that's already gone. Stop contemplating suicide or jumping into the lagoon.
Of course it's not easy especially when you've blindly invested your time, money, resources, and even sex on that partner or relationship. Learn to love with commonsense and not like a fool. Loving someone more than they love you is not a safe practice.
 It is easier for  them to walk out of your life because the feeling is not mutual or genuine, the bond is not as attractive as what you feel for them. It is not easy to walk away or abandon someone you genuinely love.
When people take a walk from your life; thank God for exposing them and move on. If you're at fault or the reason for the heartbreak; learn from your mistakes and move on as well especially where forgiveness or second chance is no longer guaranteed. Don't destroy yourself with toxic substances or poison over someone who doesn't give a damn about your feelings or how you're gonna handle the heartbreak.
Again, stop the foolish investment in a relationship that is yet to grow into marriage. Whatever you can't give out as a gift, don't give to that partner. One of the practical reasons many young people contemplate suicide or go into serious depression in the event of heartbreak is additional losses such as money, time, or huge sacrifices given to that partner when the relationship was still rocking.
A single lady almost committed suicide after being duped and heartbroken by a man who promised her marriage. A man cried like a baby when he saw wedding IV card of his girlfriend he sponsored through university getting married to another man. Another lady went into depression when her boyfriend of 12 years she has done multiple abortions for got engaged to another woman.
In all the case studies above; commonsense is obviously lacking. It is not save to love like a fool or love blindly in modern times. Dubious people will take advantage and ruin your life for you.
As an advice; do not offer generosity in any relationship because of marriage. Do it because you're capable and willing as well as moved to help. Give only what you're sure will not cause depression for you if that relationship ends.
Every relationship is a risk, play safe. Don't give your entire savings to a partner in expectation of marriage. Don't borrow money or become a debtor of huge amount of money because of a partner that is yet to propose. Your blood pressure will definitely increase when he/she runs away or disappear.
Always consider your personal happiness and safety in whatever you do in any relationship. Consider your time as well. How can you as lady with brain spend years dating a man and aborting babies for him? How can you as a financially buoyant man be training a lady through university for years without doing formal introduction or at least paying her bride pride?
You're not smart , you're planting your seed at the road side for anybody to harvest. If her people are the reason behind the delay, let them train her themselves so you can wait till she graduates before paying the bride price or engaging her formally.
You the lady that is dating that boyfriend for years, aborting every child in your womb because he's not ready; you're not wise! A wrestler that is not ready for a match has no business in the ring. He has seen your stupidity/ignorance and capitalizes on it. Blind love is toxic. If he's not ready for marriage, you shouldn't be ready for pregnancy as well. His future shouldn't be more important than your own happiness or future.
You that is willing to borrow or give millions of naira to a partner because of desperation for marriage; you're not wise! Give or lend money you can give out as a gift not money that will cause depression in your life when he/she refuse to payback. Love is not wicked, people only choose to love blindly. You must learn to love yourself first before you can love another person or else you'll become a scapegoat or another victim of blind love.  © 2018.